Ok, work has been really boring lately. It’s annoying because I worked very hard on a few things that I thought were really good and useful. Now they are just sitting on the back burner. My colleague that I’ve been working with was hassling me about this stuff and pressuring me to get it done quickly. I get it done and what happens, nothing! No feedback, no good job, just ignoring. Working with this guy over the last few months, I’ve realized that he’s just an idiot who likes to boss people around, but has no idea what he is talking about. He will bug me for e-mails that I sent to him weeks ago and stuff that I copied him on. He can’t manage his e-mail box. I peaked at it once and there were almost 400 unopened e-mails! He makes more money than me yet he can’t keep his e-mail box organized….ok vent over. Luckily, I think he’s rolling off to work on other things and we have a new person on board who hopefully will listen to my ideas which prove to be right many times and we can have a better working relationship.
DH and I are headed to NYC this weekend to visit a friend K from college. I’m not sure I’m really excited about this that much. We are going on a Sex and the City bus tour and I’m dragging DH along. I feel bad because part of me wishes that I could just go solo on this trip, but I didn’t have the heart to ask him to stay home. He really doesn’t any friends in DC that aren’t associated with me. Of course all my friends love him and there are a mix of guys and girls so he doesn’t feel always with the girls. But I would feel bad leaving him home while I went to NYC for the weekend. My friend K loves DH and we all get along well, but since I’ve been married we rarely have time to get together just the two of us. But K will be busy one day so DH and I will have a day to go around the city by ourselves, which I love. I love the freedom that comes with us exploring the city, just the two of us.
DH is going to visit our first daycare center tomorrow. It’s a very popular daycare center and the price is decent. Amazingly, they have availabilities for when we need it. This should be interesting, because I’ve been the one researching daycares and calling up the places. I really wish I could go, but DH has off because of his schedule and I won’t have a weekday off for a few weeks. I figured he should just jump in headfirst to the process. Hopefully, this will encourage him to be more engaged. I do need to come up with a list of questions that he can ask. I hope that he will have a few questions to add to it. I really want to visit a few home centers in the next few weeks. I will have to make sure to do this on my next day off. It would be such a relief to decide on a daycare soon and have that locked down. It is such a nerve-racking decision. So far I’ve only looked at daycare centers and home centers. There are pluses and minuses to both and I can’t really decide which one I like. I hope the visits will help us tremendously with our decision.
Nursery furniture is stressing me out as well. FIL has offered us their crib for DH’s little baby brother since he has outgrown it. At first, I thought great. But lately I’ve been having second thoughts. I wish they could just send us a picture of the crib and we could find out the model number. I found out that it was second hand when they got it, which makes me even more hesitant. Also, we got a car seat from them, but everything I’ve read says it is not a good idea to get a used car seat. I have no idea what to look for in a good car seat, crib, nursery furniture. I don’t have any friends in the area who have babies who can help me out. I kind of wish someone would just make all these decisions for me….sigh. I think that I’m overthinking this whole things. DH and I need to make another trip to Babys R Us and maybe Target to start this whole Nursery shopping thing.
Wednesday, March 24, 2010
Friday, March 19, 2010
Ok, so once again I’ve put off blog writing. But here are some recent developments in the last month
The cruise was fun for the most part. Not drinking was kind of a downer. SIL was kind of bitchy most of the time. She’s pregnant but not really basking in the glow of pregnancy, just complaining about it. She even asked one of our friends who was on the cruise if he would bum her a cigarette. Our friend did not feel comfortable with this at all and it really pissed me off when he told me. I really do want to get along with her. I know we’re not going to be best friends, but we should be able to get along. We used to get along better, but lately she has just been cold towards both DH and me. This really irritated me and I shouldn’t make a big deal of it. It was her birthday the Sunday we got back from the cruise. We gave her the card with a $50 GC to Macys at the apartment. She opened it when neither DH or I were in the room (we stayed at their place in Tampa a night before the cruise). It took until Sunday for her to even mouth a “Thank you.” I had to coax it out of her. We were saying goodbye and I gave her a hug and said enjoy your trip to Macy’s. BIL was wondering what that meant. I said “Oh we gave her a card to Macys. It was in the card right?” and she said yes and then said “Thank you.”
DH brought the tension between SIL and us up to his BIL recently trying to get to the bottom of why she was cold to both of us. The only answer I got was that SIL doesn’t like how DH has changed from how she used to know him (She has been dating BIL since before I came into the picture). She doesn’t like how he fawns over me. Hmmm..... I’m not sure what to do with that. He’s my H and he treats with love and respect. We’re not overly lovey-dovey around people, but he is respectful of my needs and during our trip we ended up breaking off from the group and doing a few things that I wanted to do and no one else wanted to do. I could tell she didn’t like this very much. But god forbid I should want to do things separate from the group on my vacation. I just have a different travel style and I think she should respect that.
But whatever, we don’t see each other that much. I just wish we could get along during this pregnancy. It was kind of sad that most of the trip was filled with tension between her and I since that will be only time we will see each other while pregnant. Her cold behavior really played a factor in me deciding not to go down with DH for a wedding in June since we would probably be staying with them. I’ll get to see BIL again in June when he is up here for work and I’m excited about that. We get along pretty well and he’s funny.
Baby Developments
- I think we’ve decided on a name. We were strongly leaning towards Jeremy after BIL and DH let it slip after a few drinks on the cruise that we were thinking of that. Of course, he’s all excited and had this nice doe-eyed look on his face when he found out. Now, I guess we’re kind of locked in. DH and I had some more discussion about it and we’re both fine with it so I think it will be Jeremy Michael H. Michael is after my dad.
- I’m feeling him kick and move around a few times every hour. DH can feel it too if he catches it at the right time. He actually felt him kick first on the night of his birthday when we were laying in bed on the Cruise Ship.
- I’m up about 15-16 pounds. I guess that’s a little at the top of the range. But I’m trying to eat healthy for the most part. My biggest downfalls are sweets. I crave chocolate, cookies, etc. Every day it’s the same struggle not to stop at this little bakery I love for a cookie.
- DH and I made a list and timeline of all the things we need to do to get ready for the baby. We’ve already knocked off two things on the list. We signed up for Childbirth classes and we found a doula. TBH, we interviewed her and she was nice enough. But the main factor that played into it was cost. I e-mailed a ton of doulas and most of them were between $900-$1200. This lady did all the things the other ones did but she was $700. Also, if for some reason we decided we don’t need her. We will only be out the $200 for the two prenatal visits. So that was pretty good.
- I figured out that I’m good for at least two-months of maternity leave without having to rely on leave donation which is incredibly reassuring. I can use 6 weeks of sick leave (which I should have by July) and then use up my annual leave (which should be about 2 weeks). If I want to strive for the full three months under FMLA, I would have to get leave donation. I may or may not do this.
Other developments
- I’m moving offices and I’m very excited about this. It should cut down my commute by a good 15 minutes each way (maybe more). I’m going to have an office that I share with one other girl and a window with a nice view. I can’t wait.
- DH and I are going to NYC to visit a good friend next weekend. I’m excited about this, but kind of worried that I will be bored by the no drinking thing. I’ve been to NYC a good number of times and TBH I can’t think of too many more things I want to do there.
I vow to all those following this blog or reading it that I will post more so they aren’t so long. Sorry about the length!
The cruise was fun for the most part. Not drinking was kind of a downer. SIL was kind of bitchy most of the time. She’s pregnant but not really basking in the glow of pregnancy, just complaining about it. She even asked one of our friends who was on the cruise if he would bum her a cigarette. Our friend did not feel comfortable with this at all and it really pissed me off when he told me. I really do want to get along with her. I know we’re not going to be best friends, but we should be able to get along. We used to get along better, but lately she has just been cold towards both DH and me. This really irritated me and I shouldn’t make a big deal of it. It was her birthday the Sunday we got back from the cruise. We gave her the card with a $50 GC to Macys at the apartment. She opened it when neither DH or I were in the room (we stayed at their place in Tampa a night before the cruise). It took until Sunday for her to even mouth a “Thank you.” I had to coax it out of her. We were saying goodbye and I gave her a hug and said enjoy your trip to Macy’s. BIL was wondering what that meant. I said “Oh we gave her a card to Macys. It was in the card right?” and she said yes and then said “Thank you.”
DH brought the tension between SIL and us up to his BIL recently trying to get to the bottom of why she was cold to both of us. The only answer I got was that SIL doesn’t like how DH has changed from how she used to know him (She has been dating BIL since before I came into the picture). She doesn’t like how he fawns over me. Hmmm..... I’m not sure what to do with that. He’s my H and he treats with love and respect. We’re not overly lovey-dovey around people, but he is respectful of my needs and during our trip we ended up breaking off from the group and doing a few things that I wanted to do and no one else wanted to do. I could tell she didn’t like this very much. But god forbid I should want to do things separate from the group on my vacation. I just have a different travel style and I think she should respect that.
But whatever, we don’t see each other that much. I just wish we could get along during this pregnancy. It was kind of sad that most of the trip was filled with tension between her and I since that will be only time we will see each other while pregnant. Her cold behavior really played a factor in me deciding not to go down with DH for a wedding in June since we would probably be staying with them. I’ll get to see BIL again in June when he is up here for work and I’m excited about that. We get along pretty well and he’s funny.
Baby Developments
- I think we’ve decided on a name. We were strongly leaning towards Jeremy after BIL and DH let it slip after a few drinks on the cruise that we were thinking of that. Of course, he’s all excited and had this nice doe-eyed look on his face when he found out. Now, I guess we’re kind of locked in. DH and I had some more discussion about it and we’re both fine with it so I think it will be Jeremy Michael H. Michael is after my dad.
- I’m feeling him kick and move around a few times every hour. DH can feel it too if he catches it at the right time. He actually felt him kick first on the night of his birthday when we were laying in bed on the Cruise Ship.
- I’m up about 15-16 pounds. I guess that’s a little at the top of the range. But I’m trying to eat healthy for the most part. My biggest downfalls are sweets. I crave chocolate, cookies, etc. Every day it’s the same struggle not to stop at this little bakery I love for a cookie.
- DH and I made a list and timeline of all the things we need to do to get ready for the baby. We’ve already knocked off two things on the list. We signed up for Childbirth classes and we found a doula. TBH, we interviewed her and she was nice enough. But the main factor that played into it was cost. I e-mailed a ton of doulas and most of them were between $900-$1200. This lady did all the things the other ones did but she was $700. Also, if for some reason we decided we don’t need her. We will only be out the $200 for the two prenatal visits. So that was pretty good.
- I figured out that I’m good for at least two-months of maternity leave without having to rely on leave donation which is incredibly reassuring. I can use 6 weeks of sick leave (which I should have by July) and then use up my annual leave (which should be about 2 weeks). If I want to strive for the full three months under FMLA, I would have to get leave donation. I may or may not do this.
Other developments
- I’m moving offices and I’m very excited about this. It should cut down my commute by a good 15 minutes each way (maybe more). I’m going to have an office that I share with one other girl and a window with a nice view. I can’t wait.
- DH and I are going to NYC to visit a good friend next weekend. I’m excited about this, but kind of worried that I will be bored by the no drinking thing. I’ve been to NYC a good number of times and TBH I can’t think of too many more things I want to do there.
I vow to all those following this blog or reading it that I will post more so they aren’t so long. Sorry about the length!
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