Another weekend...

My four-day weekend is long gone. This week at work has really sucked. But I really don’t want to go into that because writing about it just makes me more annoyed.

It’s Friday again. Yay! The week was uneventful. Monday DH had to go to work and I had off so I spent cooking most of the day, which is very abnormal for me. I made a soup for DH and I’s lunches for the week, I made some healthy muffins for snacks, and I made dinner for us. It was a long day and not something that I really enjoyed doing that much. I’m not cut out to be a SAHM at all. I’m realizing this more and more. I resent the very idea. DH and I were watching a Dr. Phil episode with the age-old debate between SAHM and Working Mom. The sanctimonious SAHMs really got my blood boiling….Begin rant

First of all, I have nothing against parents that choose to stay home with their children. But there is NO reason that it should automatically fall on a woman to do this. Women have just as much right to be in the work-force as men. There is no reason that the default person to stay home should be the woman. This was not expressed adequately in this episode and it p!ssed me off.

Second, a child going to daycare or other child care is not any worse off that a child that stays at home all day with a parent. My mom got very limited time off after my sister and I were born and my Dad was overseas with the Navy for a lot of our childhood. They both worked full-time throughout our entire childhood. I don’t think I’m any more worse off for it. If anything, I think I’m much more independent because of that. But we had family time on the weekends and during the week. We had dinner every night at 6PM and had fun-family activities throughout the weekend.

Third, I realized that DH and I disagree somewhat on this topic. His mom stayed at home with him and his brother until they were older. He thinks that it is “better” if a parent can stay at home. This fundamentally went against my second point. But throughout the show Dr. Phil chimed in like he was part of the conversation refuting his argument that one way is better than the other. DH was left with the argument that it is cheaper and it can be difficult to find appropriate child-care, which I guess is true. But it will probably never cheaper for me to stay at home. I bring him home the bacon….I make about $25K more than DH. He’s not intimidated by it though.

DH and I are having a dinner party this weekend. The menu is coming together pretty nicely. I think it’s going to be a huge hit. The only thing I regret is that we don’t have a bigger place. It’s going to be pretty crowded with 10 people and not everyone can fit around our dining room table. But all of our friends are used to this. They live in small apartments too so it’s not something to be worried about. We have a ton to do to get ready for it. We don’t have people over often (like once a month or once every couple of weeks). We’re kind of isolated where we live. Most of our friends live in DC or Maryland and don’t have cars so we meet in the middle in DC. I like it this way for the most part. We don’t have to worry about cleaning on a daily basis for fear of people dropping by. Our apartment can get rather messy a lot of times. But neither of us harp on each other to clean it because we’re content with the messiness. Eventually, we say, “Hey this apartment is a mess” and both work together to clean it. Sometimes if one of us is home by ourselves we’ll clean up the place as a nice surprise. So far it’s worked for us but I imagine once we have kids, a bigger place, and more people coming over on a regular basis we’ll have to figure out a new system.

Whoa this has gotten really long…must do a bit of work now.